I’ve worked so hard lately. It’s been a month, maybe even six weeks, since I’ve had a full day’s rest. It’s easy to forget the truth – this too shall pass, everything changes and it won’t be like this forever – because it seems impossible to change your direction when you’re mid-flight en route to Burnout City.
I had a mini melt-down after Zen Thai. I realised I’d really dug myself in and I didn’t want to collapse straight back to the trajectory I’d been travelling on before. I know what lies at that destination and I have no desire to go back there.
So the big question: How do you change your trajectory?
It helps to know how your mind works. What you focus on, you create more of. I’d been focusing on and created ‘feeling drained,’ ‘too busy,’ ‘no time,’ in my life. This path does not lead to Fun Town, Hilarity or Shenanigans.
The mere act of noticing, of becoming aware of your thoughts, begins to change that trajectory. Once you bring the pattern or the thoughts or the behaviour to your conscious mind, there is no choice but for it to change. That’s the nature of energy. And that’s where a good meditation practice can help.
I decided to look for s p a c e. I started to see s p a c e, in the pauses between breaths, in the 10 minutes between work and class, and, one step at a time, I have created s p a c e. Sigh of relief!
What really flicked a switch in my mind was the concept of ‘the price of admission’. The Man showed me a video about relationships, where the guy calls the little quirks and irritations about your partner the ‘price of admission’. That’s the price you pay to get on the ride – to be with that person – and if you don’t like the price, you don’t get on the ride, so to speak.
I immediately applied this to my entrepreneurial rollercoaster ride. Is the constant work, zero days off, inconsistent cash flow, being open and compassionate with people even when I’m drained, teaching when I don’t even know what the lesson is, working 12 hour days on my feet to make ends meet most of the time – is that worth it to me?
Is that price worth the vision I hold in my heart?
The answer is a HELL YES. (Thank Goddess, I always say if it’s not a Hell Yes, then it’s a no!)
The other issue is it’s easy to lose sight of your focus, your vision. I’d momentarily lost sight of the destination when I took my eyes down to the ground and looked at the week ahead.
As soon as you try to control the process, the steps in between here and there, that’s when you lose track of the vision. And overwhelm ensues. I’ve learnt that you need to focus on the vision while you simply put one foot in front of the other. One step at a time. Always the next right step. That way the process remains simple – it’s always the next right step.
My top three tips to change your destination from Burnout City to Fun Town:
- Focus on your vision (if you don’t have one, come see me for some coaching – clarity will be yours)
- Choose your thoughts
- One step at a time!
If you don’t have a vision, have trouble with your thoughts, or struggle to keep your eye on the prize, my upcoming coaching package and meditation classes will help. Jump on the mailing list to find out more HERE.
I’d love to know if this helps you – let me know in the comments.